Community guidelines

Chris_ContactChris_Contact Community Manager

Welcome to Contact’s online community – a place for people like you and families like yours.

We’ve worked with community members to create some guidelines to help you feel at home here.


Who we are

Hi, I'm Chris_Contact and I'm the community moderator.  I’m staffed by members of staff at Contact, and my job is to make sure this is a space where conversations can flourish.

We ask you to:

  • Be supportive and treat others in the way you’d like to be treated.

  • Respect each other’s privacy and keep conversations within the community.

  • Use the community safely. We have information on our website if you need advice from Contact.
  • Remember that everyone is different. What feels manageable for you might be really hard for someone else.

  • Tell Chris_Contact if anything makes you feel uncomfortable or worried. It’s best to do this privately rather than posting publicly. You can report a post by clicking on 'flag' and selecting 'report'.

  • Have a look at the topic guidelines before posting so you know what’s ok to post there.

  • Look after yourself. Writing about your experiences or reading other people’s thoughts can sometimes bring up unexpected emotions. If you need to take a break or step away from the community please do. Mind has some good information about looking after your wellbeing online.

  • Think about what you are comfortable sharing and avoid posting personal details (e.g. address or phone number) in the public community space.

  • Make your posts as easy to read as possible – avoid too many capitals or too much text speak.

  • Remember that it’s easy to misunderstand tone and meaning online – take a break before replying and report a post or message Chris_Contact if you feel upset or angry.

  • Use the ‘report post’ button to report any posts that you find worrying.

  • Use the suggestions thread or contact a moderator if you have problems, ideas, thoughts or suggestions.


We ask you not to:

  • Give ‘expert’ advice or diagnosis – we can never get the full picture online and what worked for you might not be exactly the right solution for someone else. It’s usually more helpful to support people to get the answers they need from medical professionals or a range of sources.

  • Post anything racist, homophobic, sexist, transphobic or anything that discriminates against anyone with a disability.

  • Make personal attacks or criticise others. It’s ok to disagree but we all know how hard parenting can be and this is a space for positive support not judgement.

  • Criticise a named service or person – you could get into legal trouble.

  • Share identifiable images of children. It's ok to use their first name but please don't share their surname, location or, for example, a specific school uniform. Please don't share pics of other people's children either. Thank you.

  • Post any fundraising pages, petitions, surveys, research projects or commercial posts.
  • We know that questions and discussions about puberty and sex will come up. But please don’t post inappropriate sexual content or innuendo – not everyone is comfortable with this.

  • We know everyone needs to blow off steam sometimes but please don’t swear at other community members.

  • Post about moderation decisions within the community. If you disagree with a decision and would like to discuss it, please send Chris_Contact a private message. Although we are happy to explain our thought processes, a moderator’s decision is final.

  • Post or share images or descriptions about things that could be upsetting for others. It’s ok to talk about thoughts and feelings but please don’t share graphic images or detailed descriptions of abuse, neglect, violence, self-harm or suicide plans.


We will:

  • Look at anything you have reported, read any private messages you’ve sent us and do our best to help.

  • Remove or edit anything that goes against these guidelines.

  • Try and make sure that everyone receives the responses and support they need.

  • Suspend anyone who regularly breaks the rules or who posts in a way that is unsafe for other community members.

  • Respect your confidentiality. We will only tell someone else what you share here if a child is at risk of harm, a vulnerable adult is at risk of harm, a person poses a serious risk to others or you are in immediate danger of serious harm and if we have enough information about who you are and where you live to help you get effective support. We also have to pass on information if a terrorist threat has been made or we have been ordered to share information with the courts.


We won’t:

  • Be able to respond to messages or reports as quickly over the weekends. You can help by letting us know if something makes you uncomfortable – this will help us respond faster.

  • Check every message before it goes live – that would get in the way of your conversations. But this does mean we rely on you to let us know if something is worrying you.

  • Usually read your private messages with other members – unless we have reason to believe that they are being misused.

For more info on how to get started, have a look at our FAQs.

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